Recently, the grammar police passed by my blog to offer their two cents. I am always open to constructive criticism, and that is not my main concern. It is for the future bloggers who may never tell their story because of the fear they have of being ridiculed for grammar.
I have spoken to several inspiring individuals who have stories of survival and wish to blog about their experiences. They have chosen to remain silent, and not share their stories, because of the risk of being judged and ridiculed for grammar. This makes me sad; their stories are inspiring and contain hope and promise for others experiencing abuse.
My opinion is great books and stories are weighed and measured by their style and matter, and not the trimmings and shadings of their grammar.
There is a difference between a storyteller and a writer. Judging by book sales (and therefore what publishers look for) it seems that far more people read for the story than for the writing.
For me, the story is the key, and knowing your audience. A poor story is a lost cause. I believe in writing what you want and enjoying the process.
Before becoming critical and condescending, take a step back. Lift your critical hands from the keyboard. Stop and think, what is your purpose and tone in being critical of another story or blog? Unless that blog is a corporate blog wishing to sell a product, or a copywriter looking for business, maybe don’t be so quick to judge, maybe understand it’s the story and not the writing that matters most.
Most of us who blog do not hold a degree in English or Journalism. We do, however, have a life story to tell that may be helpful and inspiring to others. That story may not come across in perfect spelling and grammar, but that doesn’t stop it from coming across in perfect inspiration.
During my 16 year career in the event industry, not once was a contract I wrote for NIKE, Microsoft, or even a Presidential event denied because of my poor grammar. I never had an editor look over a contract I wrote for a television series, or the movie Twilight, and criticize my grammar. I got the jobs, and the clients signed on the dotted line.
Beautiful writing with no story behind it quickly becomes boring. For pieces of work being considered for publication, it is undoubtedly the content that is more important, and glaring errors are fixed by an editor. This is a blog with a story behind it, a story of abuse and survival. It’s not about prefect presentation.
Everyone’s grammar expertise is not on the expert level, but everyone is an expert in their experience. Everyone is different. Everyone’s style is different. All of us have a different targeted audience.
Obviously from the number of visitors to my blog in just a short 5 months I am doing something right. I receive a minimum of 15 emails from oppressed individuals and adult survivors of child abuse each day looking to connect and share, which has been one of the purposes of this blog. I have a neighbor who would be ripped to shreds by the grammar police, yet she has over fifteen thousand visits to her blog each month (if you would like to visit her blog site and read her story, email me).
In closing, please have a bit of kindness for others. Should the grammar of a blogger just appall you, then stay away from the blog, or bind your hands and bite your tongue, or consider your tone and offer your assistance with respect and kindness, not judgment and anger. It’s not that we don’t want to improve, it’s that we won’t be belittled into it.