This post is going to have so many grammatical errors you may not be able to follow. Today I went from super happy because Ronnie is on vacation for a week , to angry due to an email. Ronnie is having a staycation so we can sift through all the items we do not need to take with us when we move. Some we will donate and some we will sell. The donation/giveaway pile will be much larger than the to sell pile.
My theory is , if you have not used that item in 3 years and not an ounce of sentimental value with the item. Get rid of it. Ronnie’s theory is different. I want the load to be very light. I also can live with very little, and I place less value on material items. With that said, this is the week to get rid of the old and un-wanted and start fresh.
Ronnie went through his sock and shirt collection and for today that is progress. I am happy he is home and the process has begun.
Now the email. Like I mentioned before, I receive far more emails from blog readers than I do comments on my blog. I welcome the emails and I also have my phone number on my blog. Feel free to call me anytime day or night.
Today I received an email from a blog guest that wanted to tell me that her experience with domestic violence is far worse than others. She also asked me what advise I could give her to be able to raise money from her domestic violence experience. Her goal is to continue her lavish lifestyle if and when she decides to leave her abuser.
We emailed back and forth a couple times, finally I said just call me. She called me, normally I am never lost for words this time I was. Our conversation went downhill pretty quickly. This victim is not willing to give up her 4000 sq. ft. home , pool, tennis court, horse and personal yoga instructor.
I had no idea what to say other than ,well I guess you are not ready to escape. The caller told me that her domestic violence is far worse than others and extreme because her husband slaps and or pushes her daily. He has been doing this for 6 years.
I explained to the victim my opinion is domestic violence is domestic violence regardless of the severity in each victims circumstance. This is not a race to see who’s owie’s are worse than others. She disagreed and because the abuse she suffers is daily, she is somehow different than the rest of us. All she wanted was to know how she could possibly monetarily capitalize on what she is enduring to maintain the “princess lifestyle”.
I asked her many questions, one being if she had every been employed. Her reply was, “No I have never been employed and I don’t want to be.” She rambled on while I was trying to empower her. She rambled telling me that she does not have time to work with all her social engagements.
All she wanted from me was how she could make at least $5000.00 per month without working. I suggested with a good attorney she might be able to have a spousal award issued to her during the divorce. Again I was lost for words.
Our conversation ended with me wishing her the best and suggesting counseling should be in order. I also provided her with the National Domestic Violence hotline number 800-799-7233.
I ended the conversation angry. Why is it more important to stay with the abuser for financial reasons then to escape? Why am I angry with her is the larger question?